A Few Thoughts on Father’s Day
Father’s Day can be a challenging time for bereaved dads. It is a time when fatherhood, children, and family become the center of attention. If you have lost a child and are grieving, Father’s Day can be a painful trigger, especially if you do not have a living child.
TO ALL THE BEREAVED DADS:
There is no magic advice to make everything better. While it may sound cliche, the best way to find healing on your grief journey is by plowing head-first through it. Surround yourself with loved ones, people who “get it.” Practice self-care. Do things that bring you joy.
If you are a dad without your child this Father’s Day, please know that you are still a dad. Even though you likely don’t know me, please hear this: I honor your fatherhood and celebrate who you are this Sunday, June 18 – and always (because Father’s Day/Mother’s Day should be every day).
Your baby will always be remembered.
If you are in pain, be patient. It will ease over time. You are brave for getting up every day and living. To laugh is not a betrayal of your sorrow. Be gentle and kind with yourself. Take time this Father’s Day to reflect. Sending you love always.
If you are looking for a gift for a bereaved dad, consider giving a story! Expecting Sunshine is a wonderful present for any man who likes to read.
Check-out the bonus chapter on the Huffington Post in an article I called: “The Importance of Recognizing Male Grief on Father’s Day: Re-Writing Loss from My Husband’s Perspective.” Click here to read more.